How to manifest abundance through scripting

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In the most recent Dear Gorgeous podcast, my co-host Gilayna and I talk about abundance. 

It was in the middle of our G&A session, that G looked at me and asked me what my definition of abundance was.  The first thing that came to my mind was having a peace of mind. I was a bit surprised. Many of us associate the word “abundance” to money, but it’s more than that. It’s time, energy, relationships, and appreciating the simple things in life. 

My father had taught be about Law of Attraction when I was seventeen years old. I thought it was a bunch of  fluff in high school but the older I got, I became more open-minded to this manifestation technique he often talked about.  To break it down, the Law of Attraction is the law of the universe that “like attracts like”; this law also is based on your energy and the vibration you  send out to the universe. The universe listens and only responds to your vibrations and it’s not your job to worry how you’ll manifest. 

Regardless if you believe in the Law of Attraction or not, there is one thing you need to do in order to live abundantly and that’s to get clear on what you want. Now before you go into a panic frenzy, it’s okay to not know exactly what it is you want but you must have an idea. 

How to script 

First, get clear on what you want and write it as if it’s already happened. Don’t think about how it’s going to happen, but just write it as if you already have it. It can be as long or short as you want. It can also be about one aspect of your life or your whole life in general. There are no limitations to scripting but you must also feel as if it’s already happened. 

For an example: I always wanted to be an author and have a writing nook somewhere in Europe. 

Today, I walked down to the cafe and ordered me a chocolate croissant and cafe latte. I took a moment for myself and decided to people watch for a bit. Afterwards, I went to the bookstore and browsed around for new inspiration and found just the book! I decided to grab lunch at the park with a good friend of mine as we chatted for hours about what happening including my upcoming book tour. I got back home and settled in my writing nook with so many ideas from the conversation I just had. I’m really loving the weather right now. It’s raining as we speak and hearing the rain is calming and soothing. 

This is a very short version of what a “day as an author” looked like in my head. It’s detailed, but not to the point where it distracts me from the whole point of the exercise, which is to let things flow. I wasn’t worrying about which country in Europe I would living at or how realistic it would be to rent an apartment there. I wasn’t worried about my first two books that I “published” and how it was published, and I didn’t have a picture of my friend I had lunch with. Everything I had written flowed naturally and almost easily – and it should be. 

Now, give it a try! 

What does the world need more of?

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As I was scrolling through my notes, I realized that I had once asked 15 people what they thought the world needs more of. I'm pretty mad at myself for not uploading this sooner, but as reread their answers I couldn't help but feel moved.

  1. The world needs more people with drive. The possibilities of what a person can achieve when truly driven really are almost infinite. For the most part, we're all born with the same tools. The only reason that most people don’t excel is that they choose not to - J,N.

  2. The world needs more connections. Actual human connection face to face. We're missing that more than anything these days. - R.A.

  3. The world needs more french fries. The world needs more empathy. - E.C.

  4. The world needs more humble hearts. I just think there’s a lot of people out there who compare themselves to others because lately society or even just people themselves give an image that being smart, wealthy, physically fit, etc. and all other things that don’t necessarily make people happy. - S.I.

  5. The world needs more open-mindedness and acceptance. - S.A.

  6. The world needs more green, tree, and nature. We’re fucking up the earth, man. - M.T.

  7. I think people need to go after their passions more and not be afraid to live. I think so many people are on autopilot and aren’t living their lives; I think more people need to be present and connected and take care of themselves. Really, it comes down to the fact that people just really need to actually live life and live in a way that’s not based on fear - K.S.

  8. The world needs more profitable education - M.N.

  9. Justice, order, and balance - J.R.

  10. The world needs more love. We live in a society today plagued with widespread misunderstanding of cultures and people different from our own backgrounds. We all need to realize what’s happening around us and the thought patterns within us. We need to slow down, open up our minds and hearts to the abundance of beauty this world has to offer by getting to know our neighbors and those perceived to be “different” from us. Only then can we begin to heal the hatred, see the humanity within each other, and lead our world into a better age - S.A.

  11. The world needs more kindness, compassion, and love to heal humanity and increase equality around the world. So we can share the resources we have with those that need more. So we can decrease this gap in society that is based on the color of our skin and our heritage. We need these things so the world will be a better place for the next generation - A.A.

  12. Self-awareness. Too many people caught up in how things affect them. They need to see how things affect both them and the community around them - N.A.

  13. The world needs more laughter. I feel as though people have forgotten how to take a joke or see the humor in a bad situation. Take me for instance: I lost both my parents within a span of almost two years. The first thing I told one of my best friends was: “Hey! I’m orphan!” He didn’t know whether to laugh or not, but I said it was okay. It was my way of coping. I can't reverse what happened and I know for a fact that everyone around me is going to be walking on eggshells trying not to make me sad or cry, so I might as well get a good laugh in. Not to mention, this past year, alone, has been the pinnacle of sensitivity. You can't seem to say anything without a community of people being offended or taking something way out of context. With how upside down the world has been, people need something positive and there's nothing more positive than laughter. It's contagious and universal. Nobody laughs in a certain language and that's what makes it more beautiful and significant. If there's anything that needs to be spread on this earth, then laughter should be it. - N.M.

  14. The world needs more truth. Everyone questions everything so much, but no one really wants to say the truth. How a lot of things are too sugar-coated, you know what I’m saying? - H.T.

  15. The world needs to start to accept what is and move on. Not everything will work out the way you want them to not because it's not time, but because it's not YOUR time yet - R.P.

What do you think the world needs more of?

 

The Honest Truth About Why We Never Start

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“Can I be honest with you?” My childhood friend, brother, and the person I go to when I’m in a creative rut was about to get real. He was about to lay it on me and I don't think I was ready.

“Shoot.”

“You are so finicky with your projects.”

Bingo. I was, and I knew this. I thrive in generating ideas – ideas for novels, blog posts, videos, social media campaigns, interviews, projects, and the list goes on and on. If there’s one gift I’m proud of having and can confidently vouch for myself, it’s creating ideas out of thin air. If there's one thing I wasn't good at, it was committing to myself.

But here I was, never have executed anything to its fullest potential and I wasn’t sure why.

“I know,” I responded. Did I really know, though? 

“You're too worried about what other people will think.”

True.

I wish I could say I didn’t care and blissfully go about my life not giving two shits, but I do. This wasn’t the reason.

“You’re scared.”

Also true – but not in fear of success or “making it” or failing for that matter; it was the fear of, “what if this wasn’t my mission? what if this wasn't what God or the Universe wanted for me.”

That was a scary thought because at this present moment I wanted this, and it's all I've known. Since I was thirteen, I dreamt of becoming an author who wrote magical stories about whimsical realms. Yet, I've accumulated years of crafted excuses and a bunch of "I'm too busy" nonsense that prevented me from fully committing to my novel, because God forbid, what if I wasn’t meant to be an author?

So what’s better than facing it? Avoiding it.

Avoiding that moment– if it even exists– that your dreams were not meant to be. If it weren't meant to be, there's a great chance that something better is waiting for you around the cornerIf those dreams weren't meant to be, then you were meant for greater things.

Cliche, I know. So I learned to look at it like this instead.

What if we're meant to have multiple dreams? What if the story I had written was meant to be a movie instead? What if I just commit to this for the sake of committing to myself for a change? What if the reason I fail as a fantasy author is that I was meant to be a YA author?

You never know unless you reach that fork in the road. You also will never know unless you start walking down that road.

I mean, whoever said we're limited to just one dream anyway?

You Gonna Learn Today – What My First Month of Nomading Was Really Like

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So I started my digital nomad journey – and it was not what I thought it would be. You would think picturesque sunsets, coconuts by your laptop, and adventure-filled weekends chasing waterfalls and waves.

Hate to break it to –  that's all an illusion. Shit don't come that easy, and this journey so far has taught me that and more.

Within the first two weeks, I got in a scooter accident that didn’t only traumatize me but left me limping for two weeks. I stayed home, had to fork out extra cash to cover the scooter damage and relied heavily on a scooter service to take me around everywhere. At this point, I felt drained.

By the third week, I lost my remote job and my only source of income. To top that off, I’ve been spending six hours a day pitching to companies, following up, and applying to jobs while hustling on my passion projects. At this point, I felt frustrated.

The time week four came around my mom had informed me that my grandfather had passed away. Stirred with grief, I took whatever savings I had left to fly to Japan to give my grandfather a proper sending. At this point, I felt defeated.

I knew it wasn’t going to be easy; I also didn’t know it was going to be this hard. I’ve had more breakdowns in a week than I had all of last year. But if there’s one thing that amazes me, it is how fast my recovery time has become. I let myself feel all the emotions of stress, doubt, and insecurities because those feelings are necessary. Afterward, I release because if you don't those feelings then become toxic.

I then get back on my computer because at the end of the day, “I wanted this."

I finally decided to rent another scooter and have been taking baby steps on the road by avoiding traffic. I charged my co-working membership on my credit card because I knew that there were huge benefits in surrounding myself with like-minded people.

This shit is hard. So damn hard, but there’s an importance in showing up every day. There are layers we need to peel and sometimes are forced to peel; with every layer, you learn how much more you can handle, and it’s always a little more than the bar you had originally set for yourself.

I sometimes think the universe looks at me and goes, "You gonna learn today, girl.”

Maybe the universe is right. But as long as I show up to each lesson, I know I’ll get to where I want to be and nothing short of that.

Here's the Grind: Coffee Cartel, Seminyak

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Welcome to the two-story chic and modernized cafe with some cool and collected vibes. When it comes to Bali, you truly are in the wonderland of creative, cozy, and vintage cafes all spread across the island – Coffee Cartel being one of them.

Here's the Grind:

Where: Seminyak, Bali
What: Dirty Coconut - espresso + coconut water
What’s playing:  “Running Back to You" - The Juan MacLean

The two-story coffee shop is a great place to get some work done or even have a private lunch date on the second floor. With gluten-free and vegan-friendly option, it's the perfect place to kick back and relax on some cushioned pillows away from the busyness of the Seminyak shopping malls.

I wanted to explore beyond my soy latte and came across the "Dirty Coconut."

"Hey, a tropical Americano!" I thought. Time for bolder adventures.

Well, it was bold, alright! Way stronger and bitter for my taste and I've had my fair share of Americanos, but was refreshingly different from what I was used to on my coffee roundabouts.

It got the work done and maybe I threw in some sugar in there too. Maybe.

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8 Things I Learned From Not Doing

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It took me years before I realized what I was giving up by not doing. I wanted to live in a foreign country and build a name for myself as a writer. I also wanted to be a full-time blogger and have built a business by 25. On that long list of things I wanted to complete and accomplish — publishing a book was one of them.

After years of going around in circles, I realized that I never took that first step — which was quite obvious because the first step is always doing. These were the valuable lessons I learned from not doing, not showing up and not acting on all the things I wanted.

1) Fear is literally just a mindset

With the bad, many people may fear the good. Because with every good thing, there’s always a bad thing that follows because life is a makeup of balance.

Yet, there’s something worse than fear and its control. It’s letting that fear take complete control of your mind, your actions, your emotions, and your power. It’s letting fear take the steering wheel when you can let any other emotion drive you — including ambition, hope, motivation, happiness, and success.

2) The younger generations are losing out on a role model

You’re going to make an impact in this lifetime. There’s no ifs, buts, and there are no maybes, too. The thing is you will only make an impact if you show up and you do what it is that stirs within you while making some mistakes along the way.

If there’s no movement, there will be no discoveries and the younger generations are going to miss out on learning from an amazing mentor — you.

3) Regret

Regret is one of the most obvious things you will experience by not doing. The thing with regret is he has a companion, and that companion is “letting go.” Letting go is neither fun easy, and some regrets run so deep that sometimes it takes a lifetime to let go.

4) Life isn’t meant to be lukewarm

There needs to be shift at some point in our lives because we are human beings designed for growth. There’s nothing wrong with sitting in comfort if you feel fulfilled — once again, the idea and definition of comfort differentiate by the person.

Even in the most comfortable stages, drive yourself to feel all the sensations that life encompasses. You’ll amaze yourself with how much you are willing to tolerate and actually settle for.

5) Years will start looking blank.

When we’re stuck in a cycle, it usually takes one traumatic or impactful event for us to remember that particular year. Those Wednesday nights, Thursdays waiting in line at the bank, dinners, and get-togethers will all somehow get mushed together.

Someone asked me if I remembered what happened in 2015. I stared blankly. I didn’t remember anything, because I was doing things on repeat and almost robotic. I was working two jobs, partying all night, rinse, eat, and then repeat. This went on for a couple of years and I never got closer to publishing that book or moving to a foreign country.

Now, if people were to ask me what I did in 2017, I can say that I took a leap of faith and went to Bali for a two-week program to become a digital nomad. And as for 2018? I just bought a ticket to Bali to start that writing career I’ve always wanted.

6) You’re letting down the people who believe in your power and your craft.

There will be people those who support you since the beginning and those who will probably give a nodding head and go about their business until you make it.

On the days you don’t believe in yourself, there is a handful of people who will continue to nudge you forward because they see potential in you.

Know that you have a gift and be grateful that the world has given you a support system on the days you don’t see it yourself.

7) We all have an untapped superpower

The more you do, the more you will learn; it seems simple, but it’s just as powerful. By dedicating every day to running for an hour, maybe you’ll come to realize that you might want to give marathons a chance. If you dedicate yourself to writing every day, maybe you come to realize that you enjoy writing stand-up comedy rather than literary fiction. Just by doing, you are tapping into another superpower of yours that continues to fuel the craft you have to offer the world.

8) Time will not wait for you

Time will never wait for anyone; not for you, not for me, not for the richest person and neither will it wait for someone with the purest heart. It’s unbiased and by not doing, all you are doing is letting time slip. And one day, you will look back at the “what ifs” and “only if I did that” and even then, time will keep moving.

So just go and DO.

Do it well and do it with love.

Here's the Grind: The Fat Turtle, Seminyak

Up to date – this place literally has the best red velvet pancakes (and we know I'm such a sucker for pancakes.)

Located in the busy streets of Seminyak, the Fat Turtle caught my eye because of their black bulletin board that literally read,

"You can't buy happiness, but you can buy Red Velvet Pancakes and that's kinda the same thing"

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The three warm stacks with melted cream cheese butter and chocolate crumble – the perfect afternoon snack. Surprising enough, it wasn’t even as sweet as I had thought.

The adorable interior reminded me of a comfy warehouse with lightbulbs hanging from the ceiling and 1960's vintage signs attached to the wall.

Another interesting item that I wanted to try, but didn’t have a chance to – Green Tea Churros.

Let me know if you have any other recommendations here in Bali!